Honesty
Well, i could feel she was lying or hiding something. Then, facebook provided some evidence. It's not even something that would matter, except that if she lied, then it becomes something that matter. Though the lie in itself is the biggest problem... if she can lie in person to my face so easily, especially when provided an opportunity to correct it, then how can i be sure about anything else?
Scared to say anything about it, cause I don't want to lose anything. But if i don't, it'll just continue to eat me inside. (and the other point is, is there really anything there to lose?) So I said something finally. And she made an unclear explanation, and insisted she was truthful and i need to think positive about her.
So where to go from here? To review the strengths and weaknesses:
strengths:
1. i really like her
weaknesses:
1. not fluent in the same language
2. oceans apart
3. combining 1 & 2 vastly magnifies their individual effects
4. little trust (also magnifies 2)
5. different cultures? different religions? (i think officially i'd be required to adopt islam)
6. i'm naturally shallow
well... see how things go. not focus on the negatives so much. still better than nothing. And maybe one day we'll sing that shania twain song.
posted by ninjashowdown @ 10:38 p.m.
3 Comments:
Wow that is some pretty heavy stuff. Relationships are challenging at the best of times, even in your own culture. It's hard to say, don't put your entire heart into it; I suspect it is too late.
I would be tempted to cherish the good times you had and look for other opportunities in the future.
It wasn't wasted, chalk it up to another experience that could enrich your life further down the road. When you're done adjusting back to life in your current world. And have time to see it in a more realistic way.
Good luck.
Yeah the whole Islam thing could go quite badly. If you were Christian it would be a lot easier because the religions are more similar but Islam and Taoism are so different! It would be a point of contention for sure.
Little white lies might not be too bad. When you poke at it and burst it open, things may become worse than it really is.
Cultural difference is quite a difficult hurdle to overcome.
Good things do happen to good people.
Best of luck Scott.
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